*** Stagnation means death ***
*** Change empowers growth ***
P - PICK UP THE PIECES
A - ATTUNE & ACTIVATE DULLED SENSES
M - MINIMISE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS TO STAY VIBRANT
P - PRAISE GOD FOR HIS BLESSINGS
E - ENJOY SPOILING YOURSELF
R - REWARD YOURSELF EVERY STEP OF YOUR WAY IN GETTING THIS FAR.
Fear debilitates our emotional growth which stagnates our mental development in achieving *** HAPPINESS***
Engage yourself in positive experiences to optimise human functioning and flourishing.
Optimism is the key concept in combating depression. As a parent, a spouse, a sibling, a friend, we can do our part to walk with someone in need of encouragement.
Refocus negative thoughts with positive thinking.
Scientists have found that optimists live longer. Optimists have 55% lower risks of death of all causes & 23% lower risks of heart failure.
An optimist anticipates love, joy, happiness, success & pleasure from every action; looking at a half full glass instead of a half empty glass.
Cantonese parents would say 'Mo xiong Gon' when children are perturbed or upset. Little do we realise it came from ancient TCM studies that when one is emotionally upset, the liver is affected.
Cantonese parents would say 'Mo xiong Gon' when children are perturbed or upset. Little do we realise it came from ancient TCM studies that when one is emotionally upset, the liver is affected.
The difference is subtle & adds up in time. Over a 10 year period, consider the effects of negative thoughts on your system.
In Chinese dialect- Cantonese, a cliche phrase - 'Mo xiong Gon' or in Mandarin - 'Bu yao shang gan',
literally means - don't harm your liver -不要伤肝
or bu yao jin -不要紧. - Don't be knotted up.
紧 on its own means tight/knotted.
In TCM perspectives, the group of seven emotions are attributed to have different effects on the body’s organ network.
These are -
Xi /喜 - JOY- also: happiness, excitement, pleasure, elation
In TCM perspectives, the group of seven emotions are attributed to have different effects on the body’s organ network.
These are -
Xi /喜 - JOY- also: happiness, excitement, pleasure, elation
Nu / 怒- ANGER - also: irritation
Si / 思 - ANXIETY -also: over-thinking, pensiveness, brooding
You/ 忧- MELANCHOLY - also: sorrow, grief, worry, anxiety
Bei /悲 - GRIEF -also: sorrow, sadness
Kong/恐 - FEAR
Kong/恐 - FEAR
Jing/惊 - FRIGHT -also: terror
Negative emotions & stress take a toll on the liver and the digestive system.
qi; a circulating life force within our system can be affected. It controls our body functions by moving blood flow. When this flow is interrupted, stagnant qi may result which may then result in blood stasis in the long run.
So make a wish list to pamper yourself. Do new things that you have not done before.
These are some examples I can think of when friends who are moms spend most of their time taking care of the family.
Many women forget that they too need to take care of their own needs.
This apply too to dads who are the sole bread winners. I see men finding joy & feeling special when they are able to share gifts with the family. This sense of giving provides a sense of reward for them. Remember to wrap one gift for yourself once in awhile. You too are deserving of it.
Take a day off with friends, go places you have always wanted to but never took the time out for.
Enjoy that special delicacy that you had your eyes on, but thought of your family first as you do the weekly grocery shopping.
Take the vacation that you had put off as you have always put priorities way ahead of it.
Buy that grooming product that you thought was unnecessary as you felt it was alright to be as you are.
Sign up for a spa session.
Participate in a fitness programme.
Learn a new craft.
Attend a skills development seminar.
Fullfill that dream you had always dreamt about.
All these in keeping with your present role honouring your responsibilities.
Though these are not extraordinary examples to pamper oneself, it is the efforts you make that remind you that you are important. Caring about yourself makes you feel special.
The good life involves finding flow in work, play & love with amplifications of your unique strengths & skills.
We all have them. Find the hidden gifts God has bestowed upon you.
So give a gift, write a love note, go places, walk with someone special ....... In pampering yourself and others, your rewards are countless.
It has a positive effect on your well being.
Most important of all, at the end of the day, "Don't let the sun go down whilst you are still angry .... " Ephesians 4:26
A smile, a hug, a kiss, lending a hand, words of encouragement and with "an apple a day" would altogether keep the doctor away.
Take the plunge, climb that mountain ....... just do not let stagnation happen in your physical & emotional lives.
Let us grow and flourish as good people !
So make a wish list to pamper yourself. Do new things that you have not done before.
These are some examples I can think of when friends who are moms spend most of their time taking care of the family.
Many women forget that they too need to take care of their own needs.
This apply too to dads who are the sole bread winners. I see men finding joy & feeling special when they are able to share gifts with the family. This sense of giving provides a sense of reward for them. Remember to wrap one gift for yourself once in awhile. You too are deserving of it.
Take a day off with friends, go places you have always wanted to but never took the time out for.
Enjoy that special delicacy that you had your eyes on, but thought of your family first as you do the weekly grocery shopping.
Take the vacation that you had put off as you have always put priorities way ahead of it.
Buy that grooming product that you thought was unnecessary as you felt it was alright to be as you are.
Sign up for a spa session.
Participate in a fitness programme.
Learn a new craft.
Attend a skills development seminar.
Fullfill that dream you had always dreamt about.
All these in keeping with your present role honouring your responsibilities.
Though these are not extraordinary examples to pamper oneself, it is the efforts you make that remind you that you are important. Caring about yourself makes you feel special.
The good life involves finding flow in work, play & love with amplifications of your unique strengths & skills.
We all have them. Find the hidden gifts God has bestowed upon you.
So give a gift, write a love note, go places, walk with someone special ....... In pampering yourself and others, your rewards are countless.
It has a positive effect on your well being.
Most important of all, at the end of the day, "Don't let the sun go down whilst you are still angry .... " Ephesians 4:26
A smile, a hug, a kiss, lending a hand, words of encouragement and with "an apple a day" would altogether keep the doctor away.
Take the plunge, climb that mountain ....... just do not let stagnation happen in your physical & emotional lives.
Let us grow and flourish as good people !
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